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See how you can navigate the stages of a divorce in the uk and resolve things fairly, whilst keeping your costs to a minimum.
PART 1 of the Divorce Manual
Part 1 of the Manual is your ‘doorway’ into the world of options you face when you separate, providing you with the essential information to be able to make the best choices for you and your family about how to navigate your separation and divorce process.
This first part of our divorce and mediation tool introduces you to the ‘Supported mediation‘ process and explains what you can do early on to support yourself, and your children ensuring that things do not get out of hand.
Use this first part to prepare and support yourself to take the first step on the mediated divorce journey and arrange a MIAM (mediation information and assessment meeting) with a mediator and gather the information you need to make the right choices.
CHAPTER- Starting the divorce process
Chapter 1 – Are you thinking about separating and divorcing? ” Putting YOU in the driving seat”-
Work through the 10 sections in this chapter and you will find answers to many of your initial questions regarding the divorce process. Use these answers to consider whether to take the next step and to find out whether mediation through a professional family mediation expert is the right option for you.
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PART 2 of the Divorce Manual
You have now decided to enter the ‘mediation doorway’ and wish to assess whether mediation is for you.
Part 2 prepares you for your MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment meeting) and takes you step by step through how to complete the pre-mediation questionnaire helping you to clarify your priorities and concerns and prepare yourselves for the different stages of divorce, as you seek to find a fair divorce settlement and sort out your child arrangements.
You will find a detailed chapter about how to ‘communicate together’ in mediation. The quality of your communication will be crucial to the success of the mediation process. You will also find information about how to work with a Coach to support you with this.
Also, discover how to how to work with your solicitor in the most effectively and efficiently, supporting you at each stage of the divorce and mediation process, as part of your mediation support team.
CHAPTERS- Divorce mediation checklists
Chapter 2 – The MIAM (Mediation information and assessment meeting)
This Chapter covers everything you need to know for your Mediation Information and Assessment meeting with your mediator.
Chapter 3 – How to complete your pre-mediation questionnaire
The pre-mediation questionnaire is one of the most important documents you will have to complete. Read this Chapter to find out why this is so.
Chapter 4 – Preparing to communicate in mediation
You are on a journey to reach outcomes which are fair enough to you and your former partner. You will never get there unless your communication in mediation is good enough for this purpose.
Chapter 5 – Solicitors supported mediation
If you are working with a solicitor, they can have a pivotal role in your success in mediation if they support you well. Read this Chapter to find out how they can help.
PART 3 of the Divorce Manual
Part 3 helps you do your own divorce, work out whether spousal maintenance is payable, complete your financial statement (Form E) ready for your financial mediation and reach a fair financial settlement in mediation.
There are also chapters dedicated to Pensions on Divorce and Business interests on Divorce, covering what you need to know about these areas and signposts you to additional information and support when needed.
CHAPTERS- THE ‘HEART’ OF THE FINANCIAL MEDIATION PROCESS
Chapter 6 – How to do your own ‘no-fault’ divorce
The new divorce law and process removes the requirement to assign blame by enabling and encouraging you and your former partner jointly to apply for a divorce, making a statement that your marriage has irretrievably broken down, without having to rely on any evidence.
Chapter 7 – What is a ‘Full and Frank’ financial disclosure?
This Chapter explains in detail how to work together to ensure that the financial information you each provide is accurate enough for the task and objective of reaching a fair financial settlement, fair to you both.
Chapter 8 – How to sort out Spousal maintenance in 5 stages
Read this Chapter, follow the guidance offered, complete the forms provided and you WILL significantly increase your chances of reaching a maintenance agreement for yourselves, saving a fortune in legal costs.
Chapter 9 – How to reach your own financial agreement in 5 Stages
Read this chapter, complete the forms as suggested, carefully follow the 5 steps set out and you WILL significantly increase your chances of reaching a fair financial settlement together in mediation, saving £1000’s in professional costs.
Chapter 10 – How to treat pensions on divorce
Pensions can seem like a ‘minefield’. This chapter and resources simplifies matters and offers you a route map to follow.
Chapter 11 – How to treat businesses on divorce
Separating couples can quickly become bogged down by what to do about business interests. This chapter comes to the rescue with its guidance and resources.
Chapter 15 – Divorce Coach supported mediation
Many people would not think twice about consulting and working with a Coach as they embark on a challenging event, whether this is a sporting or business challenge. So, why should it be any different for the family mediation process which can be equally challenging, as you navigate the practical, physical, emotional and psychological challenges of divorce and separation.
Chapter 16 – The role of Financial Adviser/Neutrals in Mediation
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PART 4 of the Divorce Manual
Part 4 provides parents with information and supporting documents needed to work with the mediator to create an effective co-parenting plan together.
There are important questionnaires and a Parenting Plan to complete ensuring that both parents feel fully prepared to work together effectively in mediation, maximising the chances of success.
Part 4 covers some of the more common effects of parent’s separation on children of different age groups highlighting the need for parents to improve their co-parenting relationship and keep conflict away from their children, whenever possible.
CHAPTERS- Getting divorced with kids
Chapter 12 – Creating a coparenting plan together
One of the keys to raising emotionally secure children is the need for separated parents to work together positively in their children’s best interests, planning their child arrangements together. This Chapters, resources and forms offers help and support with this.
Chapter 13 – How do children respond to parental separation?
This Chapter and resources offer insight into the impact parental separation can have on children, motivating and encouraging parents to work together in their children’s best interests.
Chapter 14 – The Voice of the Child
Child inclusive mediation involves giving children and young people (of an appropriate age) an opportunity to be able to express their wishes and feelings (‘a voice’) (without pressure or influence) to an independent child expert (Direct Child Consultant) when their parents separate, using the mediation session to make important decisions about them.
Section 4 – Help with the Pension Expert
Most pensions on divorce experts (PODE) prefer not to have direct contact with the people they are preparing a report for, preferring to remain arm’s length, as a neutral (referred to in the legal system as a single joint expert).
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