In the vast majority of cases, the pre-mediation MIAM will be for you to attend on your own rather than with your former partner.
This meeting offers you the opportunity to discuss with the mediator your own views about taking part in Mediation and to explain matters of importance and concern to you.
If you wish to bring a friend or member of your family with you for support, please discuss this with the mediator first. This can sometimes be a good idea if, for example, it enables you to feel more relaxed and receptive in the meeting. There may be other good reasons for this as well.
It may also benefit you to have another pair of eyes and ears present in the meeting especially if that person is supportive of the mediation process.