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MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) since 29th April 2024 Introduction During the MIAM the mediator must help you to clearly understand the options you have in respect of non-court dispute resolution (NCDR) processes including the following On the 29th April 2024 changes to the Family Procedure Rules 2010 were introduced, placing a greater obligation, …

BEWARE the court’s frustration if you decide not to mediate ! Read More »

I am writing this article because, based on my experience of having mediated financial cases for the last 27 years, too many divorcing couples still seem unaware of how powerful the financial mediation option is and how much money they could be saving themselves by using mediation to reach fair financial outcomes. A case study …

Far too many divorcing couples are spending FAR TOO much on legal and professional fees- Here is how to avoid it ! Read More »

I began work on the Divorce Manual over 5 years ago, with the first edition going online in 2022, culminating in the current online 2024 edition, now with edits and contributions from a team of top-class family communication, financial, parenting and children experts. Over the last four years, you have been telling us what you …

FREE Divorce Manual- Celebrating Family Mediation Week 2024 Read More »

I began work on the Divorce Manual over 5 years ago, with the first edition going online in 2022, culminating in the current online 2024 edition, now with edits and contributions from a team of top-class family communication, financial, parenting and children experts. Over the last four years, you have been telling us what you …

FREE Divorce Manual- Celebrating Family Mediation Week 2024 Read More »

Mediation (using MAPS and a 5 Part preparation and support plan) Agreeing maintenance (Financial support) for a spouse using a Mediation ‘Team’ and the ‘Divorce Manual’ of information and resources   Brief facts ·         H and W in the mid 50’s. Long marriage. Pension report based on parity of income on retirement at 65. ·         One …

How to reach your own Maintenance Agreements in Mediation Read More »

DELAYS in providing Public Service Pension CEVs for divorce purposes Recently, a client of mine, using the pension on divorce chapter of our Divorce Manual to support her, recently sent me the email below having applied to her Public Service pension scheme (NHS) for a cash equivalent value for divorce purposes. So, will she have to wait many …

Pension sharing on divorce- Public Sector Pension delays Read More »

Aims: The primary purpose of the Compass Resolution co-parenting package is (Team, Divorce Manual, Partner organisations) is to support separating couples to improve their communication, plan their child arrangements and co-parent plan together in a way that best supports them and their children, using an integrated package of professionals, resources and partner organisations, in the …

The Compass Resolution separated co-parenting support package Read More »

Cafcass has recently (Feb 2023) published a new range of accessible advice for parents and professionals involved in family court proceedings. The ‘top tips’ have been written by the Family Forum established by Cafcass in September 2021 as part of its ambition to listen more closely to what families say about their experiences of Cafcass’ …

Cafcass publishes new tips from its Family Forum for parents and professionals involved in the family court Read More »

“I am half my Mum and half my Dad. I just want them to allow me to love both of them, as much as I always have.” There is no getting away from the fact that parental separation and divorce can be extremely painful for adults and children alike, involving change, loss, and transition which makes it …

Inter-parental conflict and family separation Read More »

How to prepare your ‘Mediation Mindset’ Here are some questions to test your thinking and prepare you. Remember “We, humans, are predictive beings” and tend to get what we expect. Ask yourselves these questions: IF YOU BELIEVE with confidence that mediation will be successful, how does this influence and change how you think and feel …

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