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What are communication NEEDS and communication VALUES ? If you’re thinking about communication in the context of mediation, negotiation, relationships, or conflict resolution, it helps to distinguish between communication needs (what people need in order to communicate effectively) and communication values (the principles that guide how we communicate). Here’s a practical framework. Communication Need / …

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Online Shuttle Mediation Guide- Shuttle mediation is a form of mediation where the participants do not meet face to face. Instead, the mediator moves (“shuttles”) between them by speaking to each During the initial 1on1 pre-mediation meetings (known as a MIAM – Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) the family mediator will usually assess whether shuttle …

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The return of the Mesher Order With many separating couples struggling to sell their former family homes they are having to come up with more and more creative solutions to meet their future housing needs. Mediation is the best place to create and explore their options together one option has become increasingly popular over the …

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SUMMARY If you have watched all 15 videos and completed your Fin Disclosure Booklet, I congratulate you because you have done what it takes. We can support you with our tools and support BUT unless you are willing and able to take responsibility for doing what we and the mediation process asks of you, mediation …

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Part 5- Income/Expenditure Please use the income and expenditure excel spreadsheet provided by your mediator. It is very important that you and your former Partner both use this spreadsheet to minimise confusion if and when these are referred to on the screen (Online Mediation) . Please read Chapter 8, section 5- Completing your income and …

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Please watch the following video. Why?- It should help to clarify why it is important to obtain a full and proper Mortgage Report BEFORE you can properly reality test your housing options on divorce, make fully informed decisions and reach fair outcomes, in your particular circumstances. Chris Lawton – Mortgage Capacity Reports – Compass Resolution …

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Part 4- Pensions You may remember me talk about 8 important action steps in my second video including action step 3 So, please ask the mediator ASAP for the list of questions to send your Pension Scheme, to enable you to complete the relevant boxes in this Financial Disclosure Booklet. Some Defined Benefit Schemes, also …

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3.2 Capital Gains Tax This paragraph is not asking about CGT (Capital Gains Tax) payable on ‘bricks and mortar assets’ but rather investments such as Shares, Bonds, and Crypto currencies which you will have listed in PART 2.4 of the form It will be important to work out if CGT applies to any of these …

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In every mediation I encourage, enable and empower my clients to do these 3 things together With my support, if they are able to clearly express their views, ideas and approaches and carefully explain their reasoning, exploring these aspects together in a respectful, curious and constructive way, most people can make great progress, solving problems …

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Part 3- Liabilities These come in many forms Please do not forget about monies owed to family or friends and please be ready to provide documentary evidence of these such as a letter or sworn statement, from the person you owe the monies to or the loan contract, if one exists. Other than this, it …

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